Cherishing Our Memories: Why They Matter and How to Create Them

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Memories can be both a blessing and a curse. On the one hand, they can keep us connected to our loved ones even after they're gone. On the other hand, if we hang on to every memory (especially the bad ones), we are holding onto our past rather than embracing our present and future. We want to talk about both the importance of creating and saving memories as well as the methods you can use to do so in this blog post on cherishing our memories.

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A little about memories

In the words of Tennessee Williams, "Life is all memory except for the one present moment that goes by so quick you can hardly catch it going." Memories are an integral part of our identities, and like precious possessions, they can make us richer. Even when two people share the same memory, they often have unique recollections of it.

Memories can serve a variety of purposes. A memory can be a life lesson, helping you avoid the same trap or risk in the future. Because you remember what you've done right and wrong, you are equipped with new knowledge.

Additionally, a memory helps define happiness. We all have experienced happy moments in our lives. But what would be the value of those if you couldn't remember them? Your memories keep your happiness alive and help you reminisce long after the event.

Finally, memories connect us to our loved ones. We share an experience and, therefore, a memory together. Memories are a bond that brings us together.

Different types of memories

What do memories look like? When it comes to creating memories together, the first thing people wonder is what is worthy of becoming a memory. There is no clear answer to the question. Memories are snapshots of reality that remain with us long after the event is over. These could be anything from the sounds and smells of the street when you were young to your wedding day. It is impossible to define what makes something memorable. A memory leaves a mark on you because you associate it with a strong feeling or a sensation. We can create memories through our thoughts, conversations, or actions. For example, we may make a memory by taking a trip with our favorite people. We might also create a memory by visiting new places. There is no rule when it comes to how memories are made.

Memory hoarders vs. memory curators

People have many memories. Indeed, the brain can form a memory each time you experience something, from drinking a cup of coffee to visiting a new country. Are all memories worth keeping? Of course not. You don't have the mental capacity to retain every memory. Therefore, it becomes important to curate what you want to keep with you.

Memory hoarders tend to create and keep memories in excess. Think of it as people who take hundreds of pictures of the same thing on their phones. The memory space becomes rapidly saturated. Besides, chances are they never look back through their photos, which means that most shots are forgotten as soon as they've been taken. Hoarding will only lead to stress and encourage forgetfulness. Because there is too much to handle, you never indulge in checking past memories. 

Memory curators, on the other hand, are more strategic. They are unafraid to let go of meaningless memories to focus on the essential. The act of curating is similar to the role of a museum curator. It is about selecting the pieces you want to explore and keep. A memory curator also creates digestible and enjoyable captures of their most valuable memories, so they can keep revisiting happy moments from the past.

Ok, but how do I make memories?

You can take an active role in creating new memories. While this doing negates the meaningful moments of everyday life, it can give you the opportunity to build room for new experiences and collections.

But it can be tough to get started without making the whole experience feel forced. Here are a few ideas that will help you and your loved ones make new enjoyable memories. So instead of focusing on fabricating memories, you want to think of how you can create a state of mind that is positive for enjoying the moment.

You can seize the opportunity to throw a party for big celebrations and milestone events. If a relative is turning 40, 50, or even 60, it's the occasion to get in touch with all their friends and plan something special. You could even surprise them with custom t shirts, for example! Matching outfits are ideal for making everyone feel relaxed and spread the party mood, so people are more likely to make new memories. Fun games are another great ice-breaking for parties, helping reduce tensions or insecurities so people can have a nice time together.

In everyday life, simple choices such as mindfulness and learning breathing techniques for relaxation can help improve and maintain your state of mind. Remember: Memories are everywhere. But your emotions and sensations will help cement them into your mind.

Becoming a memory curator

Keeping memories close to your mind and heart is no easy task. With time, we tend to forget about

hings we never revisit. For example, do you remember some of your neighbors from when you were

a child? If their faces are gone from your mind, it's probably become you didn't have any image or

trinket to hold onto.

So, as a memory curator, you want to create different curating formats to keep different memory types.

Scrapbooks, for instance, are a fantastic choice for experiences or moments that can't be fully captured

through photos or videos only. Think of getting married, for example. You can keep in your scrapbook

not only your favorite photos of the day but also a collection of thoughts during the planning and after

the event, appointment cards with suppliers, business cards from the people who helped, drawings

and anecdotes too.

Photo albums, on the other hand, are best suited for visual memories, such as visiting a new city.

Videos can be great for unique experiences, such as filming your toddler's first steps.

Diaries can also be a helpful way to keep the things you've experienced close to your heart. A diary is

a written alternative to a scrapbook.

Are you ready to make the most of your memories and keep the things you've loved alive for longer?